But Amy doesn’t reframe her approach to draw the same conclusion that I do, which is that less data-y and more human behaviors are what usually leads you to online dating success.Amy behaved like a human who happens to have a penchant for data, but she didn’t behave like the kind of algorithm sites like e Harmony and Ok Cupid are using to suggest potential dates to you.
) You’ve got to find non-clichéd ways to sound optimistic, funny, and charming in order to stand out; this is especially true for all guys and for older women.
I hate to make generalizations, but it’s true demographically speaking.
However, traditional matchmaking also evolved in a world when marriage was vitally important to society in a way that it no longer is.
In that vein, I think it’s important to keep in mind that a list of your Perfect Mate Metadata demands can exist, sure, but it has to be a list that can flex and get reexamined in a less obsessively data-driven lens, because we live in a world that’s far more subtle and nuanced than a Mensch spreadsheet.
But of course, being an online dating coach with lots of experience and strong opinions, I have to pick apart her approach and warn you away from the aspects I think might harm you more than they help you. I appreciate that Amy likens online dating to the traditional Schadchen, or Jewish matchmaker.